5:47 PM / Posted by cutefreaky / comments (1)

Seethai mechum Raavanan

9:19 PM / Posted by cutefreaky / comments (2)

Cinematography was excellent...started off by Manikandan and completed by Santhosh Sivan... was beyond words...

Vikram has done justice to his role both as Veera and as Dev. He has proved that apart from director bringing out the best, its totally upto the actor to excel in any role.. kudos to Chiyaaaan.. he has time and again proved he can perform even after a 'Kandasamy' !!!

Abhishek has competed well against Vikram as 'Beera' but if you watch both the languages you will not be able to stop comparing how natural and effortless Vikram has performed the same role :-)...even though Abhi could off the natural look needed to be Beera.

Priyamani...though it was a short and swt role... the lovely looking damsel did absolute justice to the sister role....wonder why she doesnt get more tamil opportunities... maybe cos she looks too much of a next door girl, can talk well in tamil (main reason for her not getting lead roles) and can really dominate the screen against heroes on-screen...

Prithviraj... this eye candy surely looks his age when appearing on the same frame with Aish ;-).......but when it comes to acting.. once again Vikram has shown way more maturity as "Dev" compared to Prithvi. The simple scene where "Dev" learns that Ragini has been kidnapped says it all. Well there is not much one can do when competing against a veteran like Vikram.

Music...sounds better in hindi.. lyrics in tamil do not blend that well.. there are instances where the songs make u feel like you are watching a dubbed movie. Singer Karthik stole the limelight in both the languages :-)... ARR BGM rocks !!

Aish... green eyes, fair skinned, gorgeous costumes...that's about it. I do not see any value being added by her to that role other than her "natural" features. Aish seemed to fit better in hindi though her dubbing voice in tamil seemed way too irritating....its high time she learned to act ( ouchhhhh). I could not help but constantly think of other actresses to replace her in this role. I almost screamed when I could recall the beautiful Vidya Balan.... ( enna Mani sir... marandhuteengala ;-))

Others.. Govinda sticks to your heart in the same role compared to Karthik and Prabhu was better compared to his hindi counter part...

The dialogs in tamil version in certain places made it feel like a dubbed movie. Suhasini's attempt to write did not work AT ALL....esp her attempts to sound like Manirathnam movie dialogs :-)..... made it only worse....

Overall... thanks to the cinematographers for a visual treat !! (2.5/5)

Sutrum bhoomi surungudhey

7:32 PM / Posted by cutefreaky / comments (4)

Naaah.. its not an astro-physics blog post. Its about the addictive concept of social networking.

To name a few orkut,bebo , myspace, 51.com, friendster, skyrock , hi5, youtube, linkedin,facebook, twitter.. the list seems endless. All of them is trying to serve one purpose, to connect their individual life into other person's world.

People no longer seem to have time to stop by for a coffee to catch up with an old friend. They simply login to facebook or follow their friend on twitter. Mobile space has quickly caught up to this trend and serves as a cyber 'cafe' to login to your account and to get upto the minute update about the other person's life.

Though am part of the networking crowd, I do have mixed views about this concept.

I have heard parents anxiety about how their kids no longer know to write proper english sentences with grammar, punctuations and spelling. I have seen gran-parents trying to setup facebook accounts to get updates from their 'grand-kids'. Can you believe this? Old people are forced to adapt to social networking to stay in touch with their family.

Apart from all this, these sites publish your day-to-day life to the world viz your friend list and their friends (depending on your privacy settings). The friend list starts out to be the small group you are interacting with which then expands out to all the long lost friends from school, high-school, college, grad-school and work place. Its fun and exciting to begin with but after the usual small talk in parties you have to move onto the next guest. The same happens after the usual 'hello's and how are you' in social networks too.

You are not the same tween-ager nor the same naughty school boy anymore. Things change around you, life changes your ways and habits and make you a different person but people from your past might not really know the new 'you' and there are surprises for all followed usually with comments that are seen even by your boss who is now 'connected' to you. Ouch... do you really want your boss to know what you did at your prom night or when you had your 'weed' experience (or) did your ever imagine your once gorgeous high school sweet-heart updating her status as to how much she misses dancing with you ;-)? Naaah.. i guess not...

Last stab to this is the twitter world.Its popularity is growing by leaps and bounds. Being a blogger myself, the concept of mini-blogging is very enticing. However anybody can follow anybody. An average person only tweets about once in his lifetime ie. once in 74 days. The tweeter usually likes to follow others lives but not really publish his own. It has its pro's and con's but nobody can deny the pandora tweet-box it opens to the public.

World shrinks n brings people close but how close is close enough to still have your privacy in check ?


Oru thuli visham

12:20 PM / Posted by cutefreaky / comments (1)

  The study of humans are ever fascinating. One of my favourite hobbies when I travel and don't have a book handy to kill time is to look around at the different people and sometimes end up wondering what kind of a person they might be.

In my earlier blog post, I have spoken about first impressions. But there is more to first impressions. Well you might like someone after spending considerable amount of time getting to know them and the first impression of them could be erased from your mind.

Also over time, I learnt there was more to impressions. 

To err is human and I'm no exception to that. My personal experience with one person had formed some kind of pre-set aversion to one sect of people ( I swear this is not a racist feeling .. but let's just call them a 'sect' for reference).

I usually end up having healthy arguments with a friend and I ended up realizing as to how one person's behavior has caused this aversion in my mind towards that entire sect. I was not willing at first to lose my side of the argument. Slowly I began to see how true my friend's argument was. 

One person does not represent the entire sect of people. His actions, reactions, social conduct etc etc only speaks for himself but not for his entire sect. He only portrays his attitude to society but does spoil the reputation of the entire sect he represents. I wonder how many others have been hurt like me through him that they just form hatred and alienate that 'sect' of people from their lives.

I can think of many more examples in which we spoil things for the society. 

Classic example : This country(USA) gives a wonderful opportunity for shoppers to buy stuff they need, take it home and then return it if for some reason their purchase is not suitable for their needs. A small percentage of the country's population has misused this luxury, that retailers have changed their exchange policy.

Now, even if a person genuinely wants to return an electronic item to the store cause it did not satisfy his needs @ home loses 15% of the cost of the item when he returns it. He is now being punished for the people who exploited this luxury.

"Oru thuli visham" unavil kalandalum, adhu anaivaraiyum kollum enbathai ninaivil kondu, varum santhathikku nallathor ulagam padaipom  :-)


Happy New year 2009 !!

12:20 PM / Posted by cutefreaky / comments (1)

Wishing all of you a Happy, healthy and prosperous New year 2009 :-) !!!

Long time no write...my frequency to writing blog post has reduced and my frquency to read blogs have come to a STOP sign. Busy life, changing interests, and new things happening around me has forced a NOT so regular person like me and some of my friends' blog to this state :-)

Well, with this new yr, though am not a person who  takes resolutions, I would like to write once in a while :-). 

Will ya score tonite?

8:23 AM / Posted by cutefreaky / comments (7)

Note : This posting might not be for 'single' people... hehehe.. however I can see some ppl warming up to read the post that follows... :-)

Following the Marriage post, I would like to share another thought passed to me from somebody famous :-)

How good are you in Math?A set theory diagram. Let the 2 squares be the 2 people getting together in marriage. The red here is the discomfort zone and the colorful part is the comfort zone. For different people, these boundaries vary. As part of marriage when 2 people start to communicate to one another, we have to understand the other person's comfort zone. Rather than having your expectations in mind, you should be verbal in expressing it in a positive manner.

When the person has more of the red zone within them, it is more tactics we require to communicate to them.
What happens when you don't communicate properly?

The person with the more RED zone gets hurt easily. This person eventually builds up a 'Hurt' System within them. Once this hurt system is built strong enough, the person's DEFENSIVE mechanism sets out ..smthing like an Auto pilot.

Now about scoring, everytime you do something, the other person keeps a score of your actions. A time comes when there is the part called "Settling Scores". This is when the auto-pilot starts settling scores. Sometimes we also hurt the other person's family members in this process of settling scores.

Also the person who spoke about this humorously quoted as to how different the woman keeps score as compared to a man. He said " when you dont take her to her favorite restaurant, she gives you a minus 100 whereas a vacation to Florida could get you only a plus 1." The woman settles her score when his folks are in town and when her folks are visiting, he takes his revenge.
He suggested that the best way to avoid "Scoring" in a negative figure is to try to understand the other person's priorities and try to show interest in the other person's priorities. This can indirectly show how much you care for that person. Also a healthy discussion about a common family goal with periodical re-evaluation of priority can also be done.

He also quoted that in the bond called marriage " a woman usually looks for affection and care. She is not really bothered about being understood as it might be impossible task for a man to do that. On the other hand, the man wants to be understood rather than affection and care". This might be contrary to my previous ( way to earlier) post that the man looks for affection in his wife ie. he searches for a second mom in his wife. I guess that is still valid but here we are concentrating on the priority. The man in the long run wants to be better understood by his wife and the affection/care will follow in the list.

I felt sharing the above thought with you all, could also help me analyze how much I understood that person's discourse...

So, now you decide.. will ya score tonite? ;-).... make sure the score is positive.....



11:58 PM / Posted by cutefreaky / comments (3)

First of all... I dedicate this post to all my friends who have got married in the last one year. I guess its been an eventful year for all the wedding hall owners & other wedding contractors coz I know a whole bunch of my friends have given good business to this sector in the last year incl me

As far as I know marriage is a happy ceremony. It is usually performed to announce to the world the joyful binding of 2 people into a holy relationship.

My question is, Y is that the path to get to this point so difficult for so many of us? Be it arranged or self-arranged, the time it takes to clear all our hurdles to get to the point of announcing D day is time & energy consuming.

In an arranged marriage, there are so many considerations that come into picture. Based on the level of importance the ones irrespective of religion are : Family background, the education of the groom/bride, wealth & status in society. More specifically to some community the Horo(R)scope plays an important role. The parents have a set of expectations and the kids have their own set of expectations on their 'to be' better half. I would state that unless the kid is fine tuned to the same mindset of the parents, it is more likely that the about "sets" of expectations do not MATCH.

The interesting part here again is that, when the kid likes a 'prospective', parents have a stronger weapon called "horrorscope" matching. This concept has served as an Armour for the parents who do not like that 'Prospective'. Also the kid who accepts this conditional approval of getting 'horrorscope' matched in order to get engaged to his/her 'preferred prospective' is highly subjected to an emotional blackmail which means out of "jeem boom baaah"... the good news (to the parent) is that the above favored person can never be their prospective 'in law' & the better news is that their 'boom boom' kid had just lost his/her "conditional approval" to a complete dismissal. Is it so difficult to accept the fact for a parent that their kid can like a person and would want to live with the person for the rest of their lives but just the EGO within the parent to accept his kid's choice could completely bury the desire????

WOW... its an amazing day-to-day practice which a lot of people are actually living through. This example until today I was able to relate to only for a "self arranged" marriage proposal. Today, I got to know that even if the marriage is arranged and if the kid shows interest towards a particular "prospective" identified by the parent, this issue still exists. So it is not the Parent's SOCIETAL fear to accept a self-arranged marriage that makes them to reject a person but their EGO that actually makes them behave so. We constantly think that the world is moving towards a more 'open minded' social set up but I guess there are still people who enforce these stringent choices to their kids.

I have seen many parents cribbing about how it took them years to find the perfect 'spouse' for their kid. The actual fact being, they took so much time to either finally accept that no 'prospective' is actually a perfect glove to their kid's hands, either they had to alter some parts of 'their' found glove to fit the kid's hands or totally hand over the credit card to their kid to make their own purchase.

Do the parents ever realize that their kid telling them "You find me anybody you like" could have a meaning

"oh my god....I have spent enough time with you and your list of prospectives, some cases where I have warmed up a little bit with the prospective bride/groom to scare you and make you back out n reject that proposal, some other cases where you have been totally impressed with everything else but I did not want to take a second look at that proposal. Finally I think I have had enough cribbing from you about the number of proposals you have been seeing for me, the amount of money you have spent on horoscope matching and also the complaint about how indecisive your kid is with this whole thing or how unlucky you have been with the groom/bride search and reached a point to say - this is it.. I have had enough and have spent too much of my valuable part of my 'single' life worrying about whom I would bring home after my next trip from home as my better half that I'm ready to finally say this magical line of You find(or is it FINE) me anybody you like and I shall marry that person"

Well, I would like to stress that Marriage is a happy thing in every one of our lives. As parents, all of them are concerned about their kid's lives but the few months/years you spend with them is never worth the lifetime your kid spends with his/her better half. As a person we have adjusted to the people God has presented to us during our course of life, like our siblings, our teachers, our colleagues but we are allowed to choose our friends. We would also like to have more choices than just the friends we choose. Would you say Yes or No? If you had said Yes, then how about adding a spouse to that list? To give this same liberty to your kid, Y dont you let your kid choose their spouse too? You could guide them in this process but not force your choice down their throat. Maybe some of us reading this post take the courage to share this to his or her parent and forward them this article if u r in similar situation or try to follow this when it comes to your younger sibling or in later yrs.. with your kid :-)

Lets get to D date with little effort and more joy :-)



11:48 PM / Posted by cutefreaky / comments (0)

Nice new look to the blog with a simple template change by this non IT person...

Its been a lonnnnnnng time n am hoping to get back to some active blogging... :-)


Idhu nalla koothu

5:46 PM / Posted by cutefreaky / comments (4)

Though not a big cricket fan, I did feel the team let us down this time in World cup. Having an ardent cricket team fan by your side does force you to watch little glimpses of the 'Gaala-aatam' n the aftermath 'galaata'.

Chk this out...

Somebody has to be the scape goat and here, our most experienced player blames the coach and captain to protect their skin.

Highly disappointing to note that they let down the belief of sooo many millions of people without winning against a team who lost to other countries but looked down on Indian team March 23, 2007.

There were so many articles about how the 'Superbowl' caused revenue loss for companies in US. Did someone do a survey on the Production loss for March 23, 2007 with so many s/w programmers falling sick or working from home on the same date????

'Something has to be done about the team' is the slogan in every single cricket fan's thought at this point of time. How about dissolving the team and getting in a new set of people? This should become a 'rule' so that the players attitude will only be to WIN and not to ponder about whom to blame..

PS: Courtesy of pics from gooooooogle though collage was done by the author ;-)