Ennavendru sollavadhu......
How much does the first impression influence a relationship? What if the person you judged by the appearance made you the WORSSSSTTTTT judge on the face of earth????????
Does this happen to all of you out there???
Why do we have to judge someone just by looking at them without giving them the oppurtunity to make us find out what they really are?
This maybe something which can influence a lot of relationships...like friendship @ any place.... relationships with employers/employees.....future TBD relationships....
Have we ever thought about the possible "good" people we might have missed becoz of the above mistake?????
Ada... idhellam idunga pa... naaama ellam indha bloggin panrom.. how many of us.. treat the people V meet daily with the same polite talk u do when u chat with ur fellow blogger??????????
welll.... the reason... for this post is... while travelling.. I was tooo bored....became restless... and ended up looking at people and was wondering what kind of a person each of my co-passengers might be... adhaaan indha vetti post........
On the contrary.. we end up spending valuable time of our lives with people....which we might end up discovering... it was WORTHless....moments in our lives........
wht the hell.."life is to live.. live it to the fullest" :-)
(appaaada mudikka oru line from the head line..hehehehee..).....ungalidam irundhu vidai peruvadhu...
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sukku
ENZZZZZZOIIIIIII.....
Life is to LIVE.. live it to the Fulllllest ;-)
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tata na udane thaan indha thatha ku strike aachu...
there are 6 billion ppl in this world, so u cant possibly judge n talk to everyone.. wht u can do however, is to make the best out of whatever relationships u can develop with those few u meet. I wudnt care a damn abt every kuppan and suppan i see everyday, but the bloggers who i go to has interested me in some way, otherwise i wudnt bother :P
dont worry abt the past if u dont wanna repent for ur present in the future :P
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The search has just begun !!!
We cant judge any body without talking to them, because of this we are missing good perons.
wow! soober postappu
first impressions, split second decisions. why, what when . how can they succed, when they can go wrong..
gladwell ida vechu oru soober book eludhikiraan
check out his BLINK.
gladwell.com poi paaru
@ RARA : u r right....we meet so many ppl in our lives...n am talking abt the WONDERFUL ppl we miss coz we dont give them the chance they deserve......unakku (post purilaina.. kelu... thookathula comment panniya??)
well...I never regret my decisions.. I always wud love to take the sole responsibility for whtever happens ;-) gotcha????
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sukku
@ jeevan: You are right ...n this reminds me
" Kannaal kanbadhum poi..kaadhaal ketpadhum poi... theera visaripathey mei "
Somehow I think this proverb does its justice in wht am trying to hit at ;-)
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sukku
@ prabhu : well.. these are things.. which we might be habitual of doing unconsciously and when some "vetti" like me does a post... like this.. u sit back to think abt it for least a split sec... ;-)
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sukku
Nalla thattuvam friend.
Believe me, I've read about this and heard it from a lot of people. It would help a person really if he/she can stop being Judgemental ( by looks, voice, etc..etc even kulam/kothram). But then it is extremely difficult to practise.
By the way Sukku are you in the US now??
One way to deal with that is what Mr.Venkittu says. Try not to judge people. Another way is not to second gues yourself. If its done, its done. There's no point in worrying about it. You made the decision and so, don't repent! Move on.
Hope this helps. :)
This apart, there are a lot of situations, where the chaps, were exactly what we judged, and over a short period, turned into diametrically opposite characters! Juz closely think of some of the folks with whom u have a bit long relationship.
The best thing should be to not make judgements the very first time we talk/meet/see someone; if we HAVE to, then make it a positive one to start off with. Agreed, positive or negative, we would definitely develop impressions about any one we know, over a period of time. Some ppl that I thought were ABC's initially, turned out to be XYZ's after further interactions and vice-versa. So, at first, we should give the benefit of the doubt to the other person, and generally have a "positive first" impression of them, and then let time decide to support or counter that eventually!
I always judge people (automatically) the minute I see them. But in most cases, my judgement happens to be wrong! I guess we cannot avoid this. But with time, I have learnt not to let this judgement be a major barrier between me and this stranger.
enakku onnu purilae sukhanya..... intha post moolam thaangal koora virumbuvathu??
btw your "About me" and the title you have kept for counter are very nice (vanthathukku ethaiyaachum paraatanum la ?)
never knew you started blogging again. good to see you back.
If I misjudge a person on my first impression and prefer not to mingle with them. I dont think I'll have the same feelings as being close to a person for many years and then nazhuvi pona uravu. After all not all relationships last the lifetime without any gaps in between.
how many of us.. treat the people V meet daily with the same polite talk u do when u chat with ur fellow blogger?
idhu seriya puriyaliye.
-narayanan
@ narayanan (venkitu) sir: Yes iam in US.
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@ sriram : it is rare a person can control this tendency of judgements. I think this was also medically proven ... that within the first 2 or 20 secs u form an impression about anything/person you see....
well am also trying to point to ppl whom we judge without seeing... maybe by talking on phone or maybe by seeing their photos or maybe chattin with thm...
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@ TJ : well I have had such exp only for the betterment of relationshp..for me they have always become better......for good.....
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@ Blogger anonymous : my arguement is why do we need to judge someone at first without getting to know them?? Positive or negative is not the criteria..
ABC ( is it ABCD??) seri.. and I knw EFGH...wht on earth is xyz????
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@ vinesh : exaaaaaaaclty....judgements shld not b a barrier is the logic analysis..but does your mind rule your heart??
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@ r.subra : neenga vandhadhukku paaraaatnamnu artham illai sir....summa first sentenceoda niruthirukkelaaam.
abt the post : just a thought provoking discussion... i try to post smthing funny but end up in smthing like this all the time :P
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@ narayana: hey...enna aalayey kanom...i hope u are doing ur thesis work sincerely...
unnoda :If i ...in between " purilla.
'how many.." : Are we polite with ppl arnd us and do we try to get to know ppl arnd us as much as we show eagerness in knowing our fellow chat friends across the globe.. or for ex... bloggers across the globe...
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sukku
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@ kalai.....enna ma kannu....art kanom???
I did not read thennavan post.....
has been quite sometime that i did bloghopping...
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sukku
Good post...
@ RARA : jus saw ur post http://sooper-crack.blogspot.com/2005/11/aavathum-pennale.html - "aavathum pennaley"
felt nice to c my name on the list...dint knw u had such a long list ;-)
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sukku
sukhs...athu chumma kalaikkarathukaga sonatu..neway ur name desc and Chief guest nu title koduthirunthathu was nice....
Sir nu solrathukku naan vaathiyar ileengao sukhanya madam ( i know i know u are not teacher either..but pazhikku pazhi :p )
sari nan vantha vishayam to welcome you to my blog site ..athai solla vanthuttu vera enna ennamo solren paarunga
http://rsubras.blogspot.com
hi..first time here..very good post...even i have wondered abt this lot many times...and i try not to judge ppl
hmmm suku...there r 3 perceptions abt every person...
"wat u feel abt u"
"wat others feel abt u"
"the REAL U"...
so its the REAL U which matters...:-)
even for a moment when i read ur name on the profile i thought sukku na makku..but u sound logical n funny on this post keeping it sublime..
:) no offense meant.. nalla blog, tamizh leye links vachurukinga nalla iruku. Idha vida unga page la cursor ensoii nu irukardhu romba nal aparam pakaren..cudn resist the wild part in me..and ended up playing with it..moving it up n down..
..what a life hmmm
@ iceeyez: funny but true... i actually wrote a draft of my new post abt the 3 perceptions u had mentioned but not yet posted it ;-)
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sukku
@ Φ : hehehee....thanz for ur honest comment... m glad u enzoiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii...ed
;-)
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sukku
When we stop judging people and expceting something out of a relationship ...we meet nicer people and have the best relationship !!
my inner voice : Look who is talking ??
@ shivshankar : well... i have been so UNCONDITIONAL to people.. and now i feel.. they dont deserve it..
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sukku
First time here! Good Post....Will try not to judge people ;-))
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